One Year
It has been a year since we started our 2nd adoption journey. Our home study has been finished for over a year & we are closing in on the one year mark of being in the search process and we are still no closer than we were a year ago. We have had only a handful of leads that have went no where. We have only been looked at by birthparents through our agency maybe 4 times. This just seems really odd to me since I have known others who were looked at around 50 times in their first year. While I know God is sovereign and he works in his own timing, it still has me wondering why so little in so long.
Living in Ohio has its pros & cons about adoption. One great thing is that there is only a 3 day revocation period, while a con is that the agencies cannot advertise and the only way they get birth mothers is through word of mouth. Our agency is unable to reach out to birth mothers, they have to wait until the birth mothers contact them. This is something that is hard to wait for when other states can contact the birth mothers and promise much more than those in Ohio can give. Another great thing is that in Ohio we only pay $3,000 towards birth parent expenses which helps keep our cost down, but in other states they can offer the birth parent an excess of $10,000. Which seems to me like selling your child. This also makes it hard for those who have a budget and can only afford a certain amount with an adoption.
While we probably could have had a child by now if we were willing to pay $30k-$40K. This just isn't a possibility for us if we want to stay out of debt and adopt a child. We have received some grants, and it has been a blessing for the amount we have been giving! We are excited to be able to use them when we finally bring a child home.
Sometimes I struggle to understand God's sovereignty when we are talking about finances and how things would probably work out quicker if we could/would be willing to pay more for our adoption. I do not feel that $30K plus is right. I know that many people would disagree and say that adoption and the cost of it shouldn't matter because you are saving a child. But I think it does! Just my opinion.
While we are waiting on our agency, I have been in contact with some maternity homes with hopes something may come out of that. I am always in contact with friends & family letting them know we are still looking. Trying to find other sources to get our names out there. If you are reading this & would like to know more about our agency please check out www. cfkadopt.org. If your would like to know more about our family and the reasons we have been called to adopt please check out our blog post about our profile at http://adoptionjourny.blogspot.com/2013/12/our-profile.html
Living in Ohio has its pros & cons about adoption. One great thing is that there is only a 3 day revocation period, while a con is that the agencies cannot advertise and the only way they get birth mothers is through word of mouth. Our agency is unable to reach out to birth mothers, they have to wait until the birth mothers contact them. This is something that is hard to wait for when other states can contact the birth mothers and promise much more than those in Ohio can give. Another great thing is that in Ohio we only pay $3,000 towards birth parent expenses which helps keep our cost down, but in other states they can offer the birth parent an excess of $10,000. Which seems to me like selling your child. This also makes it hard for those who have a budget and can only afford a certain amount with an adoption.
While we probably could have had a child by now if we were willing to pay $30k-$40K. This just isn't a possibility for us if we want to stay out of debt and adopt a child. We have received some grants, and it has been a blessing for the amount we have been giving! We are excited to be able to use them when we finally bring a child home.
Sometimes I struggle to understand God's sovereignty when we are talking about finances and how things would probably work out quicker if we could/would be willing to pay more for our adoption. I do not feel that $30K plus is right. I know that many people would disagree and say that adoption and the cost of it shouldn't matter because you are saving a child. But I think it does! Just my opinion.
While we are waiting on our agency, I have been in contact with some maternity homes with hopes something may come out of that. I am always in contact with friends & family letting them know we are still looking. Trying to find other sources to get our names out there. If you are reading this & would like to know more about our agency please check out www. cfkadopt.org. If your would like to know more about our family and the reasons we have been called to adopt please check out our blog post about our profile at http://adoptionjourny.blogspot.com/2013/12/our-profile.html
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